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Episode 93

The JV Club

Amiira Ruotola-Behrendt

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The JV Club #93: Amiira Ruotola-Behrendt

Jigsaw Puzzles! Eating the bread basket! Cutting your hair! Find out about all of these metaphorical meanings in this in-depth mind-meld with episode 93’s guest Amiira Ruotola-Behrendt (It’s Just a F*ing Date), fresh from teaching her “Oprah Life Class” with Ms. Winfrey herself!

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5 comments

  • In listening to this podcast I’ve become a huge fan of yours Janet and love when you contribute personal anecdotes. However I’ve noticed you that while you did that in the beginning you dont do as much nowadays. Would love to hear more stories from you about love and life as an aid for some us that need to hear those stories.

  • Not that everything can be reduced to classic tv examples, but 1 of the best examinations of how grief and tragedy can affect people in different ways at different times is “Chuckles the Clown Dies” from the Mary Tyler Moore Show. The whole time Mary is out of synch with how everyone else is reacting to his death, but not everyone has to follow those Kubler-Ross 5 stages uniformly. “A little song, a little dance, a little seltzer down his pants”, indeed.

  • Loved the relationship advice on here. I think males and females are both as confused and sometimes the male condition is overlooked. Also would love to hear your personal takes on polyamourous relationships.

  • I find this so interesting. One’s own emotional perception vs the reality of when and where issues are actually fully experienced. Personally I think the emotions of the typical person are subject to unintentional suppression. Much like the theory of pain gating in our nervous system. The brain will only process the most immediate and intense pain first. I feel like the same thing happens with emotions. We can only fully process what our subconscious rationalizes to be the most immediate and intense feelings and drops everything else into the emotional queue. Even when we think that we are being fully present and experiencing the sorrow or happiness our minds are fast at work backlogging issues until we are in a place where we can experience those issues correctly and fully. Sometimes that “place” can sneak up on us and come at very unexpected times. Like our mind is a crappy boss who drops off emotional order requests at 4:55 on a friday.

    As far as the stuff about feeling deeply emotional about movies, or news stories. I always called that “surrogate sorrow”. I always believed that surrogate sorrow comes from an unresolved personal issue. Something that your subconscious mind keeps trying to send up to your conscious mind and your conscious mind keeps avoiding. Then those feelings get transposed onto almost anything else. “I’m crying for the character in this movie, so that I don’t have to cry for me.”

    Just my musings though, I’m am just a graphic designer after all. :)

    ~ J