I’m your nerd host, Chris Hardwick
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Nerdist is a place where we nerds come together and share the nerdery that we find. It's also my home to various elements of the Nerdist Empire. You might recognize me from TV. You don't realize that's where you know me from, but it is. You think you went to college with me or I look like your cousin's friend, but that is not the case. At one time or another you stumbled upon me on your moving picture box in such cerebral gems as MTV's "Singled Out" and Noam Chomsky's "Shipmates." and so much more...
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I’m totally on board with virginity loss as a communal right of passage. A few years ago I was actually thinking about starting an obviously non-profit community organization dedicated to providing virgins with awesome first times where they’d feel comfortable and learn what they needed and wanted to know, as a sort of “pay it forward” gift of great sex for future generations. I was thinking we’d be called the Piece Corps.
As a fat man, those are some of the concerns I have. Glad y’all are fat positive. It’s great hearing some of the affirmation that big is beautiful for men too. I think some big women are beautiful, but I’ve always been insecure because of the lack of a six pack and one chin. Definitely one of the best episodes so far. Keep up the good work! (You and Dave should definitely experiment at some point! I’m just sayin…^_^)
I LOVED this episode! As a larger woman who has been struggling in the dating scene it is nice to finally hear someone who is so positive about alternative body shapes. So often we are told that it is not ok to be a sexual person if you are not the porn ideal. I run into that a lot. That is just not true. Male or female, it is just important to own your sexuality no matter the size or shape.
Thank you for discussing this topic.
“Hungry people don’t fuck” is my new happy phrase. I love it. I also loved “There is no wrong way to have a body.” This was definitely an episode that I needed to hear. Thanks for the awesome content. I’m going to go back and listen to more.
These last two podcast really hit home with me. I think I am finally getting comfortable in my own skin, since I am losing weight at work since I have a physical job. I feel like I have all the pieces I need to just find the last piece. I just felt a lack of motivation when I was in high school. Like I wasted time back when I was skinny.
While I am glad this episode aired, as someone who has struggled with weight since her earliest memories of life, I found that it still didn’t address some of the other elephants in the room. For example, the internal struggle that I go through every time I hear about the importance of “accepting your body,” yet knowing on the flip side that if I truly want to live a healthy life (sexiness aside), I need to drop a couple hundred pounds. So how can I feel sexy if I also know that I’m clinically unhealthy and at risk for all sorts of health complications?
Also, how did the fetish term “FA” not come up in this podcast? It’s out there, and in my opinion, it puts fat people into some sort of “novelty sex” category. Is there a term for “person who likes average-sized guys of average height with dark hair and a 5-o’clock shadow”? No. Because those people are just “normal.”
Also, it was interesting how Sandra said that being with a big guy can make her feel “small and feminine,” as though being small was a qualification for being feminine. Yes, she did admit that she still struggled with being fat-positive, but it’s slips of the tongue like that which prove that even the most accepting and open-minded people still have certain ideas of how bodies should look. Oh Sandra, I wish you could spend just one day in my body, and I one day in yours!
I’ve just discovered your podcast and I’m happily chewing through the archives! I’m so glad that you are body positive, and I was so excited to hear Hanne Blank – she’s one of my heroes!
Can I just say, though, that Sandra’s discomfort with the word ‘fat’, and general tentativeness about putting some things into words ended up making ME really uncomfortable. I self-identify with fat, and it’s no big deal. I’m fat. It’s a fact. I’m still sexy and beautiful and feminine and a good person and all those things. I get why you would be cautious – fat’s often falsely portrayed as a moral issue, and calling someone ‘fat’ can be code for ‘worthless’ or ‘gross’ or ‘lazy’, etc. But it doesn’t have to be. I’ve certainly been called ‘curvy’ with more vitriol – and hurt to me – than in the plain old word ‘fat’. By the end of the podcast I felt a bit like Sandra was guiltily whispering it as if it were the worst deviation she could imagine. I’m 100% positive that this was all well meaning, but I felt really sad afterwards. I know you said you would work on reclaiming the word – I hope you have!
Thanks for an excellent podcast.