I’m your nerd host, Chris Hardwick
Nerdist is a place where we nerds come together and share the nerdery that we find. It's also my home to various elements of the Nerdist Empire. You might recognize me from TV. You don't realize that's where you know me from, but it is. You think you went to college with me or I look like your cousin's friend, but that is not the case. At one time or another you stumbled upon me on your moving picture box in such cerebral gems as MTV's "Singled Out" and Noam Chomsky's "Shipmates." and so much more...
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The podcast gave her email address as Shira (underscore) Terrant (at) yahoo (dot) com.
Dammit, *Tarrant*
I bought the book but I was really disappointed to see so many of the stories actually revolving around feminism. Personally I think men have their own issues to solve, some of which have nothing to do with women. But the almost complete lack of discussion on the subject is disturbing.
Just The Tip: Consent
I always go by the old standby: “Yes means Yes.”
If you are uncertain about consent, you don’t have it.
I really enjoyed this conversation but one thing struck me as really telling: in a conversation about gender roles and one that consistently asserted women’s equality to men (which is a whole ‘nother kettle of fish I’ll leave alone), Dave always referred to females as “girls.” Now, I like Dave and I’m pretty sure the clubs he goes to are not the Babysitters Club. I’m a woman, please and thanks!
As sort a related observation, I thought it was interesting that this topic and specifically the dating aspects tended to split into a “girls and guys” vs. the “women and men” terminology I’m more used to hearing from you.
Keep up the great show!
@Shayna in my experience some women do that too, not just men. I think it’s because it sounds less serious and people are more comfortable with those terms, but it comes from a lack of practice in communication. And yes, it should most definitely stop. Over here, because of the language difference, it’s usually “boys and girls” or even worst, “chicks and hunks” (for lack of a better translation).
Men who like Animal Collective a lot….
Hey! How’s it going?
This podcast was interesting, but not very helpful. The points made depended largely on useless labels. The duality of nice guy/jerk, alpha/beta or nice girl/bitch are fallacies. These dualities do not exist in authentic communication and vulnerability. True connection, sexual or platonic, depends on the ability to own what you want and ask for it unapologetically in the most effective way for the individual.