-Conductor of the Dumb Train

i do however find it interesting that kelly has qualified her detractors to be “female writers.” GULP! please say it isn’t so. i wasn’t aware that negativity had a gender and for that i am disappointed. i know that ‘girls’ do indeed give other ‘girls’ a hard time, but i’d like to think that some people just view the world differently and as much as we hate it, we kind of have to accept it.

there will always be critics [smart, indifferent or otherwise] and people who don’t like us based on whatever ‘superficial’ reason they find us objectionable. i think that if i had to generalize and pinpoint one reason why ‘female writers’ are more emotionally attached to their feelings than men, it might be because we somehow feel connected to the ‘invisible sisterhood.’ [haha, i made that up]. meaning that girls seem to feel the need to talk sh*t abt one another to, i don’t know, elevate their own sense of self-worth?! men go and beat their chests, bond and ogle women. girls go and drink cosmos, paint their toes, gossip and join mommy blogger groups. is it any wonder that kelly stands out? she tells it like it is sister.

oh, and PS. we’ve all come across “bad writing,” hers isn’t. so there.

I’m fine with people not liking my writing, the world would be boring if everyone liked the same things.
Miranda, don’t worry, you didn’t hurt my feelings and it doesn’t shock me at all to hear that you are a female writer. I didn’t see your initial comment and just came here this morning to get the link to this blog.
The few negative drive-by notes I do get on Twitter and my blog, are from female writers and bloggers with marginal readership. I’m accustomed to this. I’ve been writing online for 8 years.
The support I received from this piece came from emmy award winners, a pulitzer prize winner, an oscar winner, housewives, procrastinators etc….
So yes, Miranda – while I absolutely will not discount your comment, I will qualify it.

Kelly- I really enjoyed your story. I hope you post more like it in the future.

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Usually the content is terrific.

I apologize if I hurt Kelly’s feelings, but she had better get used to it if she’s planning on writing anything else, which is what I have learned writing for a magazine.

Yes, I deleted your comment. Mainly because my blog isn’t a democracy, nor do I have any real obligation to let people say and old horrible thing they feel like. I felt that your comment went beyond just an opinion. It was needlessly mean and the Internet has enough of that shit. I want the blog to be a positive place, or at the very least constructive. There’s a difference between saying you don’t like something and why, and making a universal statement like “This is just terrible, etc…” I didn’t want Kelly to experience that on a site I invited her to write on.

I hope you can understand, though I can’t help but think your intentions were willfully negative. Otherwise, why would have come back to this post to check on the aftermath of your comment?

By the way, dear, “cencored” is spelled “cenSored,” so that’s what smells bad about YOUR writing.